Now that you’ve met and talked to a nerdy boy, you’d better read this primer if you want to have any clue as to if the guy is into you. It’s definitely possible that your nerdy boy is outgoing, talkative, and able to pass for a socially competent human being. But it’s also likely that, given his brain capacity, he’s over-thinking every interaction to the point that you have no idea how he really feels. Here are some helpful nerdy boy “tells.”
He asks you about yourself, then doesn’t process the answers.
He read in a book once that it’s a good idea to ask a girl questions about herself to get her talking. So he’ll do this, and then he’ll start thinking: Shoot, what am I supposed to say next? Is there a follow-up question that’s better than others? I can’t remember what the book says! Inevitably, you’ll finish your story and he’ll go, “Cool. What were you thinking about ordering?” One flustered, I mean custard, please.
He invites you to join his mission in World of Warcraft . . . or his fantasy football league.
I’ve been taking some flak in the comments for stereotyping nerds as solely WoW types. But nerds come in all flavors: sports-obsessed. Indie-band obsessed. Presidential-biography-
If your nerdy boy has invited you to do something with him that you know he’s into—be it in a video game or IRL—he’s probably into you, too.
You sit next to him on a couch, and he doesn’t get up and go to a different couch.
If a nerdy boy isn’t into you, he’ll be worried you might get the wrong idea, and you’ll develop an unrequited crush on him, and you’ll think he’s a bad guy, and he really, really doesn’t want to be the subject of a Taylor Swift song because that would be mortifying. As a result, nerdy boys find it very difficult to share seating space because everyone knows seating space is just a gateway to you wantonly brushing against him. But if he DOESN’T recoil when you sit next to him on a couch, start picking out rings—that’s huge.
He offers for you to come over and watch Game of Thrones, then watches you watch Game of Thrones.
Most nerdy boys love Game of Thrones, and there are a lot of bare breasts on Game of Thrones. If your guy is looking at you rather than gawking at the Khaleesi of the Dothraki people, you’ve definitely got him under some kinda love spell. That’s sweet. But now you have to pretend you’re not more interested in Rob Stark.
Spotify tells you that he’s listening to the same Michael Bublé song one minute after you play it. Specifically, “I Just Haven’t Met You Yet.”
Spotify is a very useful tool in helping you glean some insight into the mind of a nerdy boy. While some guys do legitimately like Michael Bublé and listen to “IJHMYY” on a daily basis, there’s a 97% chance that his click was directly related to your name and song choice appearing in his sidebar. He’s trying to communicate with you. If it was genuinely a coincidence, well, that’s a sign in and of itself! Everybody wins, except Michael Bublé’s lyricist-theorist.
You’re pretty sure he dislikes you and/or might not be attracted to your gender, but there are times in which you’ve held his glance a moment longer than necessary, but you think you’re probably imagining things but he just IM’d you so hey.
Guys say women’s emotions are too complicated, but nerdy boys usually win the “What Does This Mean?” award (as nominated by the Ambiguity Academy). My best advice would be to keep circling your N.B. (nerdy boy) until you think there’s a 51% chance he likes you but is hiding it, then tell his friend you’re interested in N.B. but not to say anything, then the friend will tell N.B. and you can see if N.B. will approach you or not. Or, you know, don’t say anything at all, and just live your life with your pride intact. It’s OK, we’ve all got a few regrets floating around our nerdy girl hippocampi.
How else can you tell if a nerdy boy likes you? Let us know in the comments!
[Thanks to Daily Fig reader Emily for the article suggestion!]